You were created for a purpose.
Within you, you have everything that you need to carry out that purpose.
You will experience trials and failures that are meant to educate and strengthen you!
You must experience the "natural consequences" of your choices.
FAIL FAST - FAIL FORWARD
Why do we need to have boundaries for our children?
Children need to know that there are boundaries.
Boundaries make children feel safe and loved and that you, as a parent, care.
These boundaries provide a safe haven for them to play, explore, fail, succeed and GROW.
Children will constantly testing these boundaries to make sure they are secure.
Hebrews 12:11 "God disciplines those that He loves"
Never ever do for your child (or anyone) what they can and should be doing for themselves.
If you do these things for others, you will cripple that person emotionally and will create a sense of entitlement and dependency.
You have sent the implied message that you don't believe in them, their competence, or their capability to learn.
Why would anyone want to send that message?
Every human has a need to contribute.
Within a family community, everyone should have a "job".
Kids, especially at a young age, LOVE to help!
Encourage this by:
Having them care for their toys, clothes, bike and room.
- Ownership carries with it the responsibility to care for what they own
- If they don't care for their toys, clothes, bike, etc., they should lose the right to use it and must earn the right back.
- As parents, we must TEACH our children how to care for their stuff and impress upon them that they are "stewards"
People rise to the level of what is expected of them.
If you want your children to be grounded, place responsibility on their shoulders. - Dear Abby (aka Pauline Phillips).